So, I’ve grown up hearing adults, other couples and so on and so forth talking about a man being in the dog house, or sleeping on the couch. Last night, I was at a soccer game and there were some younger kids behind us. It’s funny because they were 24 and 25 years old, but because of some of their language and conversations we heard, it felt like they were kids… Anyways! We were talking about how we didn’t think cheerleaders belonged at soccer games, and I was saying that my husband would agree. I turned to him and said, “Don’t you agree?” My husband and I had had this conversation before, so I knew he did, but the guys next to the girls were saying that all guys would want cheerleaders at any sporting event. My hubby agreed with us girls and the girls began to joke that he had to agree or he’d be sleeping on the couch! I then took an opportunity to say that he’d never had to sleep on the couch.
This brought my idea for my blog! It’s hands down true. I have never asked my husband to sleep on the couch, forced him to sleep on the couch, or demanded he sleep on the couch. He has never slept on the couch. (Other than when he falls asleep while watching TV and that’s usually in the afternoons!) I, on the other hand, have. I am a firm believer that if I am the one mad or upset or frustrated enough to not want to be in the same bed or the same room with him, then I should be the one to sleep on the couch. Now many of you might be sitting there saying, “You should never go to bed mad at each other.” I COMPLETELY agree, BUT there is a time of night where logic and being realistic are taken over by being tired. At that point, there is often no way to resolve it until sleep has come and rest has been had. So, there have been 3 times in my marriage where I remember being mad enough that I slept on the couch. I don’t remember what it was about, I don’t remember why I was mad, but I remember sleeping on the couch. And I remember that he wasn’t mad or frustrated so why in the world would I make HIM move when he was quite content to be in the same room and in the same bed? Regardless of the argument or disagreement.
I personally think there is a growing lack of respect being shown on movies and TVs of the marriage partnership. For some reason, men get the brunt or the shaft, or however you want to look at it. Now, men aren’t perfect, I’m not saying they are, but I really feel like they often get disrespected by women. I’ve seen many times where a woman has been down right, publicly disrespectful to her husband. It always makes me think, that if the tables were turned, and the man were treating the wife that way, the woman would be so hurt and offended. Yet, if the woman does it, it should be tolerated. It’s okay.
IT IS NOT OKAY. I am also a firm believer that couples should back one another up in public, but correct (if needed) in private. Putting a spouse down in public can lead to so many hurts. Once again, it sometimes seems as though women want the support from the husband, but don’t give the same support to the man. Sad, sad, sad. In truth, we should all be respectful to each other. Not just between husband and wife, but between friends, co-workers, extended family, and even strangers.
So, to women out there who make their husbands sleep on the couch when they are mad, that is YOUR choice. I’m just expressing my choice. To women out there who put down their husbands and show a lack of respect, that’s again, YOUR choice, but I feel sorry for your husbands. And maybe take a second to think about the Golden Rule.
Do unto others as you would have others do to you!!!!!!!!!!!!
